​Self-love is your secret sauce. It’s your superpower and your liberator. It’s not the superficial feel-good moment we’re being led to believe it is. It’s so much better. If everything else in your life falls away, you will still have self-love.

First, I want to clarify how I am defining self-love;

“Self-love is taking responsibility for my thoughts about myself, how I care for myself and no longer demanding that the world give to me what I should be giving to myself.”~ AK

 

SELF-LOVE MATTERS.  WE ARE NOT BORN TO DISLIKE OR HATE OURSELVES.

To love yourself is to accept your past trauma, pain, and mistakes, big thighs, bad grades, addictions, short temper, you name it. Self-love gives you the permission to embrace your intellect, quirks, talents, abilities, and superpowers. It’s your strength and your guide; it will help you lean into the hard parts of your life so you can find the best parts of yourself. Self-love helps you to become more of who you are meant to be; it’s the road back to you.

Acceptance is living in reality. It’s not possible to erase the past or rewrite history. By no means does acceptance excuse or deny hard things, but it encourages you to move on from them. It is not saying the fact that bad things happened is okay, it means you stop fighting against the realities of your life. Use them to grow as a person. There is no minimizing, but reclaiming of yourself and your life. Acceptance invites you to understand that it’s the present moment that matters. You have the ability and agency to make choices in the present moment that can shape and create your future.

Self-love comes from deep within your heart and soul. We are not born to hate or dislike ourselves or anyone, for that matter. We are born for love. We are made with a huge capacity to love. Love and hate are learned behaviors. You can unlearn hatred and learn to love. The first step is to accept what your life has been like up until now; the good the bad and the not so good. Self-love guides you to make choices that create and shape a future that will support your callings, dreams, goals and ability to love others well along the way.

LOVING YOURSELF IS HOW YOU DESERVE TO BE LIVING.

 Loving yourself, giving yourself the opportunity to be your best, having happy and fulfilling relationships, a rewarding career, following your dreams; I believe this how you deserve to be living. They come part and parcel with your gift of life. When you learn to accept who you are, you’re free to explore your dreams and discover what makes you feel alive. There isn’t a downside to loving yourself.

Self-love is the path to healthy relationships, strong faith, generosity, compassion, focus, and living into your potential. It’s this journey of self-discovery and personal development that lets you celebrate your uniqueness and do the same for others. Instead of fixating on the idea that you are insufficient or broken in some way, let the pain, trauma, failure, mistakes and imperfections begin to take on a new meaning. Let them be your teachers. They are meant to refine you, not define you. See how they have shaped you and made you the hero of a significant story. Doing this makes you the author of your story, not circumstance  and not other people.

You deserve to be awake to your significant story. Learning to love your story can be quite the journey. Self-love sets you on that path and guides the way. It’s important to remember that every journey of self-love has struggles, tears, moments of being stretched way farther than is comfortable and days that feel impossible. Don’t be discouraged, they’re all signs that you are doing it. You are living the life of self-love.

SELF-LOVE IS DIFFERENT.

 I joke that my manicures, lash extensions and hair stylist are the glue that keeps me together, but they’re not the same as self-love. The things I do for (or to) myself are expression of how I feel about myself. These are things I do because they make me happy. Self-love is different, it comes from within.

The source of self-love is self, it’s right in the name. You have to be willing to believe it is you that makes you valuable, worthy and significant. It’s baked into you. You can’t remove it. It’s not what you do, it’s not your accomplishments, job title, social status or bank account that makes you lovable. It’s you. You are a completely unique gift to this world. All of your life experiences (remember, the good, the bad and the not so good), your traits, character, skills, interests, passions; they come from within you. If everything else in the world fell away, you’d still have these things.

 

IT TAKES COURAGE TO LOVE YOURSELF.

The magic is learning to reconnect with yourself. Learn who you are. Stop wasting  your life trying to be someone else. It takes courage to love yourself enough to stop trying to be someone you’re not, especially if it means rocking the boat. Self-love requires you to live out the plan God has for your life. Self-love is to accept who you are and who you are not. Being true to the person you were created to be might disappoint a few people or make them uncomfortable. I’m encouraging you to rock on! The people who love you will come around. Especially when they see you living in the power of self-love.

Self-love starts when you are willing to accept who you are and the circumstances that have shaped your life story. You don’t have to love what happened, but to accept the realities of life so you can grow and move forward, this is how self-love takes root. The willingness to believe that you are worthy of love, valuable and significant, this is the magic ingredient that will make your self-love grow strong. Awakening to the fact that you are a unique gift to this world and all the things that came together to make you you- that’s a superpower that can’t be duplicated or taken away.

We will continue to explore self-love.

Much Love,

Alicia K.

​Self-love is your secret sauce. It’s your superpower and your liberator. It’s not the superficial feel-good moment we’re being led to believe it is. It’s so much better. If everything else in your life falls away, you will still have self-love.

“If everything else in the world fell away, I’d still have self-love”.-AK

First, I want to clarify how I am defining self-love;

“Self-love is the state of accepting who I am and who I am not. What I have control over and what I do not. What’s me and what’s not me. It’s my birthright and my strength.”~ AK

SELF-LOVE MATTERS.  WE ARE NOT BORN TO DISLIKE OR HATE OURSELVES.

To love yourself is to accept your past trauma, pain, and mistakes, big thighs, bad grades, addictions, short temper, you name it. Self-love gives you the permission to embrace your intellect, quirks, talents, abilities, and superpowers. It’s your strength and your guide; it will help you lean into the hard parts of your life so you can find the best parts of yourself. Self-love helps you to become more of who you are meant to be; it’s the road back to you.

Acceptance is living in reality. It’s not possible to erase the past or rewrite history. By no means does acceptance excuse or deny hard things, but it encourages you to move on from them. It is not saying the fact that bad things happened is okay, it means you stop fighting against the realities of your life. Use them to grow as a person. There is no minimizing, but reclaiming of yourself and your life. Acceptance invites you to understand that it’s the present moment that matters. You have the ability and agency to make choices in the present moment that can shape and create your future.

Self-love comes from deep within your heart and soul. We are not born to hate or dislike ourselves or anyone, for that matter. We are born for love. We are made with a huge capacity to love. Love and hate are learned behaviors. You can unlearn hatred and learn to love. The first step is to accept what your life has been like up until now; the good the bad and the not so good. Self-love guides you to make choices that create and shape a future that will support your callings, dreams, goals and ability to love others well along the way.

LOVING YOURSELF IS HOW YOU DESERVE TO BE LIVING.

 Loving yourself, giving yourself the opportunity to be your best, having happy and fulfilling relationships, a rewarding career, following your dreams; I believe this how you deserve to be living. They come part and parcel with your gift of life. When you learn to accept who you are, you’re free to explore your dreams and discover what makes you feel alive. There isn’t a downside to loving yourself.

Self-love is the path to healthy relationships, strong faith, generosity, compassion, focus, and living into your potential. It’s this journey of self-discovery and personal development that lets you celebrate your uniqueness and do the same for others. Instead of fixating on the idea that you are insufficient or broken in some way, the pain, trauma, failure, mistakes and imperfections begin to take on a new meaning. You see that they have shaped you and made you the hero of a significant story.

You deserve to be awake to your significant story. Learning to love your story can be quite the journey. Self-love sets you on that path and guides the way. It’s important to remember that every journey of self-love has struggles, tears, moments of being stretched way farther than is comfortable and days that feel impossible. Don’t be discouraged, they’re all signs that you are doing it. You are living the life of self-love.

SELF-LOVE IS DIFFERENT.

 I joke that my manicures, lash extensions and hair stylist are the glue that keeps me together, but they’re not the same as self-love. The things I do for (or to) myself are expression of how I feel about myself. These are things I do because they make me happy. Self-love is different, it comes from within.

The source of self-love is self, it’s right in the name. You have to be willing to believe it is you that makes you valuable, worthy and significant. It’s baked into you. You can’t remove it. It’s not what you do, it’s not your accomplishments, job title, social status or bank account that makes you lovable. It’s you. You are a completely unique gift to this world. All of your life experiences (remember, the good, the bad and the not so good), your traits, character, skills, interests, passions; they come from within you. If everything else in the world fell away, you’d still have these things.

 

IT TAKES COURAGE TO LOVE YOURSELF.

The magic is learning to reconnect with yourself. Learn who you are. Stop wasting  your life trying to be someone else. It takes courage to love yourself enough to stop trying to be someone you’re not, especially if it seems to be making someone else happy. Self-love requires you to live out the plan God has for your life. Remember, self-love is to accept who you are and who you are not. Being true to the person you were created to be might disappoint a few people or make them uncomfortable. I’m encouraging you to rock on! The people who love you will come around. Especially when they see you living in the power of self-love.

Self-love starts when you are willing to accept who you are and the circumstances that have shaped your life story. You don’t have to love what happened, but to accept the realities of life so you can grow and move forward, this is how self-love takes root. The willingness to accept that you are worthy of love, valuable and significant, this is the fertilizer that will make your self-love strong. Awakening to the fact that you are a unique gift to this world and all the things that came together to make you you- that’s a superpower that can’t be duplicated or taken away.

We will continue to explore self-love.

Much Love,

Alicia K.